Infatuation
All pull, no knowing, nothing decided.
Passion is running high while closeness and commitment are still low — the classic shape of love at first sight, of an unreciprocated crush, of a few electric weeks. It is real; it is just not yet made of much. Sternberg's caution is that infatuation feels the most like love while containing the least of it, and it burns fastest because arousal habituates. That's the honest read. The other half of the honest read: nearly every consummate love on earth started here. The question this result puts to you is whether anything is being built underneath the pull — whether you're learning who they actually are, and whether either of you has decided anything out loud.
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- NonloveNone of the three components has taken hold yet.
- LikingReal closeness, without the pull or the plan.
- InfatuationAll pull, no knowing, nothing decided.You're here
- Empty LoveThe decision survived; the warmth and the pull didn't.
- Romantic LoveKnown and wanted — with the future left open.
- Companionate LoveDeep closeness that has been decided on.
- Fatuous LoveCommitted fast, on a pull you haven't tested.
- Consummate LoveAll three present — and all three needing upkeep.
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