The Casefile

The suspicion is there, the checking happens — and the emotional part is largely missing. You don't agonise and you don't make scenes, you establish. In fact you probably wouldn't call it jealousy: to you it is clarity, and clarity is a sensible thing to want. That is the feature of this profile: better than any of the other seven, it can explain to itself that what it is doing is normal. Two things are worth knowing. An even tone doesn't change what the action is — an evening checked calmly looks the same from the other side as one checked in tears, and sometimes worse, because calm makes it harder to see a person who cares. And the second: an investigation structurally cannot close. Finding nothing doesn't read as "all is well", it reads as "not yet" — which is why this kind of checking usually ends not in a conclusion but in you getting tired of it.