The Siege

The mind goes to a third person, it genuinely hurts, and it reaches the point of checking. The three components here are not merely high — they close a loop: the thought searches, the feeling gives weight to whatever is found, the checking brings the thought new material. This is the only one of the eight that feeds itself, and being worn out by it is arithmetic rather than exaggeration. Some things worth saying plainly. This is not a diagnosis and not a verdict on your character: people who had every reason to suspect land on this result too. A level of jealousy says as much about the state of a relationship as about the person in it, and in this corner that is especially true — The Siege is sometimes a sign that you are being lied to. What the test cannot do is tell the two apart; only a conversation with the person it concerns can. And if this is taking hours out of your week, surviving every reassurance you're given, or starting to cost you the relationship itself, that is worth raising with a qualified professional. Not because a questionnaire found something — it can't — but because carrying it alone is heavy.