The Whole Person
You meet people as people, not as a list of requirements.
All three bars sit low, which does not mean you'd take anyone — it means none of the three standards works as a filter before you've met someone. You decide on the person in front of you rather than on the criteria they arrive with, and you can be genuinely surprised by who you fall for. That openness is rarer than it sounds and it is worth something: you will consider people the other seven profiles screen out on paper, and some of those turn out to be the good ones. The cost is the same thing seen from the other side. A filter you never apply is a filter that can't warn you, so the discovery that something important is missing tends to arrive late — after you're attached, rather than before. Your work is usually deciding when to leave, not deciding whom to consider.
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- The Whole PersonYou meet people as people, not as a list of requirements.You're here
- Heart FirstOne thing is non-negotiable, and it's how they treat you.
- Chemistry FirstWithout the pull, the rest of the list never starts.
- Solid GroundYou need to see that their life stands up on its own.
- The Close PullWarmth and attraction both. The rest can be figured out.
- Built to LastKind and settled. The spark is the part you'll negotiate.
- The Bright MatchPull and standing. Warmth is not what you screen for.
- All of ItThree high bars, and no particular apology for any of them.
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